15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

This is a Repost from the http://worldobserveronline.com/2012/04/25/15-things-you-should-give-up-to-be-happy/.

I loved the article and wanted to share it with everyone and make it a part of my blog so it gets etched to me forever! Happy Reading... :) 

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Grey's Anatomy Quote

Here is a Quote from Grey's Anatomy by Meredith Grey!
I am completely head over heels for this Series and these particular lines gave me goosebumps,here are they::

"There is a reason I said I'd be happy alone, it wasn't because I thought I would be happy alone, it is because I thought if I loved someone and then when it fell apart, I might not make it, its easier to be alone because what if you learn that you need love and when you don't have it and what if you like it what if you shape your life around it and it falls apart. Can you even survive that kind of pain? Loosing in love is like organ damage its like dying. The only difference is death ends, this it can go on forever."
- Meredith Grey

Deep Down Somewhere.....

deep down somewhere

beneath the smile

a pang rises

but gets suppressed somewhere

may be you are still here

a part of you

never forgotten

yes you are still here

a series of mistakes

a long pause

time they say

is what it takes

looking at the horizion

cant find a way

how do i

how do i move on........

10 Commandments of Life by Swami Vivekananda

1. Life is Beautiful

First, believe in this world - that there is meaning behind everything. Everything in the world is good, is holy and beautiful. If you see something evil, think that you do not understand it in the right light. Throw the burden on yourselves and you will realize that Life indeed is Beautiful!!

2. Set Yourself Free 

The moment I have realized God sitting in the temple of every human body, the moment I stand in reverence before every human being and see God in him - that moment I am free from bondage, everything that binds vanishes, and I am free.

 3. Love is the Law of Life

All love is expansion, all selfishness is contraction. Love is therefore the only law of life. He who loves lives, he who is selfish is dying. Therefore, love for love's sake, because it is law of life, just as you breathe to live, live to love.

4. It's Your Outlook That Matters 

It is our own mental attitude, which makes the world what it is for us. Thoughts gets converted into actions. Our thoughts make things beautiful, our thoughts make things ugly. The whole world is in our own minds. Learn to see things in the proper light.

5. Don't Play the Blame Game 

Condemn none: if you can stretch out a helping hand, do so. If you cannot, fold your hands, bless others, and let them go their own way.

 6. Help Others

If money helps a man to do well to others, it is of some value; but if not, it is simply a mass of evil, and the sooner it is got rid of, the better.

7. Uphold Your Ideals

Our duty is to encourage every one in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.

 8. Listen to Your Soul and

 You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.

9.  You Have the Power

 All the powers in the universe are already ours. It is we who have put our hands before our eyes and cry that it is dark. Nothing in this world is impossible if you focus.

10. Be Yourself

The greatest religion is to be true to your own nature. Have faith in yourselves! 

Books Update

Books are a man's best friend, the days of diamonds and all are gone. No one is so busy that they cant spare sometime for taking a book in their hands and go to a corner of the house and get engulfed in the story. Only an avid reader can tell you that books are the treasure of mankind.
I don't vouch to be an avid reader but I certainly try and take out some time to enrich myself and go on a trip to the imaginative world created by the authors. Here is some of my efforts of 2012. As I said earlier the list is not a jaw dropping effort but certainly the journey of thousand miles starts with a single step!

 My List of Books that I read in the year 2012

1. Revolution 2020 by Chetan Bhagat

2. Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier

 3. The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson

 4. The Immortals of Meluhas by Amish

 5. The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

6. The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

 7. Can Love Happen Twice by Ravinder Singh

8. If God was a Banker by Ravi Subramanian

 9. The Secret of the Nagas by Amish

 10. Fifty Shades of Grey by EL James

11. Fifty Shades Darker by EL James.

12. Fifty Shades Freed by EL James

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year

Better Late Than Never!

The most hyped year of the entire universe met its anticlimax on the 21st December, the Mayan Calender predicted the End of the World but Alas! We are Alive. This is the beauty of life and death, you cannot bind it in chains, you cannot force its beginning or predict its end or control its journey. All you can do dance in the drizzle, face the wind and sing to the tunes of life and when the time comes embrace death with grace.

The past year like any other year had been eventful and the year that has begun is promising to be even more challenging and happening.Started with CAT Results which were depressing, and rightly had to be because my effort wasn't 100 percent, but as the wise have said let bygones be bygones!

Then out of no where I did something that I had been meaning to do for some days or may be some months, I went to a Toastmasters meeting and I never looked back after that, it was a whole new world and the experience was different. I started getting involved in Toastmasters and my communication skills and my presentation skills have grown leaps and bounds. It encourages me to stay upbeat about current affairs and also has boosted my habit of reading. It is my break from the chaotic life and instills peace in me. One very crucial thing that I have learnt at toastmasters, it is not how to stand up and speak but its how to sit down and shut up and listen.

The year like any other year was again full of ups and downs, challenges and treats. And I had expected nothing less from it.. In the end the year 2012 was totally worth it!

Me..

When you feel sad and betrayed
Who can you count on every single day?
When you feel lost and alone
Who will be there for you in every way?

When you've made mistakes and bad decisions
Who can you count on to tell you you're wrong?
When you feel you can't go on
Who will be there with a feel-better song?

Look into your heart and you will find
That person you can trust is not far away.
Look deep into yourself, don't give up,
For if you do, it's yourself you'll betray.

When you're looking for answers
To all your questions and dreams,
There is one person you can count on,
It's impossible, I know, it seems.

But take a few moments to look deeper inside.
Look into your heart and there you will see.
You'll be surprised when you find out
That you've been looking at ME..